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Usor satul de apusul de pe promenada am hotarat sa bag un Lion's Head. Luna asta cred ca e a doua oara cand urc. Foarte inactiva luna asta din punct de vedere montan.


Asa ca l-am luat pe Andrei care de fapt el m-a luat pe mine, si am bagat mare pana la parcare, dupa care am inceput sa ii dam la deal.
Faza cu aia doi din poza, e ca eu mai fac glume de cacat pe munte, ca asta e, scotzi transpiratie si mai scoti si perle. Ideea e in coltzul stanga jos e un cuplu, si eu i-am zis tipului ... "5 years from now you will regret that you did not push her".. erau destul de departe asa ca s-a vazut doar zambetul lui, in timp ce ea probabil ca ma injura fara sa schimbe mimica.
Aici am inceput sa am o mare problema si anume in ultimele luni am slabit cateva kg. Dar faza e ca toata lumea imi zice asa "vezi, ca ai slabit, si deci acum o sa imi fie mai usor sa te bat, am curaj sa ma iau la bataie cu tine". Kestie dealtfel foarte amuzanta pentru ca nimeni nu iti spune ca asta e un side efect al slabitului.


Si am urcat noi fix ca sa vedem asta. Totul timp bun pentru mine.. 36 minute dupa ce am si facut cateva pauze ca sa iti revina Andrei din agonie. Au fost doua momente in care credeam ca o sa explodeze inima in el la cum respira.


placerile vietzii vs. ganduri intunecate.

sarbatorim doar Cape Town, uitam de Joburg. altfel ne gandeam deja la 2 ani de Africa de Sud.

o poveste geniala de inceput de Cape Town, acum un an a fost asa.. eram cu Cristina (colega mea -- care dealtfel a insistat sa ii spun numele si sa nu o ard impersonal chiar daca e casatorita cu altul) si dupa o zi de munca am mers la un magazin sa luam niste mancare si alte prostii. la casa erau vreo 3 tipe, si cum ne vad asa albi ca laptele (noi veneam din iarna, iar in za tocmai se terminase vara) ne intreaba de unde suntem. eu raspund ca sunt din Romania si tipele se uita la mine si zic toate in cor ceva. eu nu inteleg si le pun sa repete, iar ele zic duios "take me home with you". expresie care a ramas dupa aia in vocabularul meu si de fiecare data cand imi placea de vreo casieritza ii spuneam ca "I will take you home with me".

faza cu Cristina e ca la inceput nu se baga in discutii, ca era timida sau era totul prea nou casa se riste, faza e ca daca eu vorbeam tot timpul cu toata lumea (hotel, magazin, restaurant) si ea doar se uita la mine toti credeau ca noi suntem impreuna asa ca eu dadeam explicatia "she is married with another man" dupa care radeam, si aia era. nu mai era nevoie de nicio alta completare. iar fiecare intelegea ce vroia.

si se face un an de Cape Town. recunosc ca mult timp m-am gandit sa ma mut in Nepal; dar nici Africa de Sud nu e chiar de lepadat, iar Cape Town are tot ce vrei: ocean, munte la 5 minute de centrul orasului.. doar directia difera.

mare om.

recunosc ca urmaresc how stuff works pentru kestii tehnice, dar nici articolul de mai jos nu e de lepadat

"It is better to have loft and lost than to never have loft at all." — Groucho Marx

Falling in love is a magical experience that happens between two people. So why do people fall in love? Professor Arthur Aron from State University of New York at Stonybrook has been exploring the dynamics of what happens when two people are falling in love:

Q: What motivates people to seek out love?

A: Our primary motivation as human beings is to expand the self and to increase our abilities and our effectiveness. One of the ways we accomplish this is through our relationships with other people. We have learned in our research that it is important to feel that you have the ability to be an effective person, especially in our relationships.

Q: How does this theory of self-expansion explain the process of falling in love?

A: Usually, we fall in love with a person that we find attractive and appropriate for us, but also someone who demonstrates that they are attracted to us. This creates a situation where a great opportunity is open to us for self-expansion. The fact that they are attracted to us offers a significant opportunity — when we perceive this, we feel a surge of exhilaration!

Q: Does it always work this way?

A: No, an interesting exception to this occurs if we feel badly about ourselves. The process gets thrown off if we can't believe that another persons finds us attractive — like the Groucho Marx joke where we don't want to belong to a club that would have us for a member. We tend to miss out on opportunities for falling in love if we don't feel good about ourselves.

Q: What conditions are best for meeting someone and falling in love?

A: When you meet someone under conditions that are highly arousing — a political demonstration, turbulence on a plane, a stimulating performance — a time when the body is stirred up and excited, we tend to experience attraction at a heightened level. This effect is well documented but the explanations for it are very controversial. I tend to believe that we come to associate the arousal of the situation with this person and our own self-expansion.

Q: When do we fall in love?

A: Contrary to what most people think, the statistics show that most people fall in love with someone that they have known for a while. People only report falling in love quickly about 1/3 to 40 percent of the time. Of course, this varies from culture to culture. Falling in love happens differently between cultures but it does occur in most cultures.

Q: How does our appearance factor into the equation of falling in love?

A: This is interesting; we have found that if you are very unattractive, it can hurt you a lot in forming romantic relationships. However, being attractive doesn't help that much.

Q: How do you explain that?

A: We have found that two important characteristics, kindness and intelligence, are extremely important in the process of falling in love. And attractiveness is not connected to these things. These two attributes are things that people learn about someone from knowing them over time. Intelligence is important in all aspects of life, especially in love. But kindness is the strongest indicator for a successful long-term relationship.



http://health.howstuffworks.com/relationships/love/why-do-we-fall-in-love1.htm